Dear Abby: I Want to Manage My Anger Better Than My Dad Did

Joseph: So, there’s this guy named Joseph from Massachusetts who’s really trying to get a grip on his anger. He feels like it runs in the family, especially from his dad. His mom is strong and kept things in check, but he still sees some of those anger traits popping up in himself.

He’s never been violent, which is good, but he struggles when he argues with his girlfriend. He tries to stay calm and even asks her to lower her voice when things get heated. But inside, he feels like he’s about to explode. He wants to be a great dad and husband, so he’s looking for tips to keep his anger in check.

Abby tells him he’s smart for recognizing the problem. She suggests figuring out what triggers those arguments with his girlfriend. Maybe taking a break and talking later could help. She also points out that his dad’s anger issues are a different story. It’s not okay to blame family history for bad behavior.

Abby has a booklet on managing anger, which could be useful for Joseph. She mentions that anger is a big issue in society today and suggests that schools should teach anger management to help people communicate better.

Then, there’s another letter from a guy in Pennsylvania who’s struggling with online habits that are hurting his marriage. Abby advises him to talk to his wife and seek professional help. It’s a tough road, but recognizing the problem is the first step.