A mother shares her struggles of sacrificing her career for her husband’s job
Toronto: A mother is feeling the weight of her husband’s well-paying job. She believes it has cost her dearly—her own career. She shared her story, saying, “My husband earns well, but it means my career has taken a back seat while I’m home with the kids.”
She feels the pressure of managing everything at home. “We don’t have extra help, so all the child-related tasks fall on me,” she explained. Although she works part-time, it’s not enough for her. “I miss my job and the independence that comes with it,” she added.
Seeking advice on a moms’ forum, she found mixed reactions. Some commenters questioned why her husband’s income meant she had to sacrifice her career. “Why can’t both partners work?” one asked. Others suggested that it was a lifestyle choice, implying she could push for more equality in their roles.
But for her, it’s not that simple. “Could I really ask him to quit his job? I don’t think that would work out well,” she said. Some people empathized, while others pointed out that they should have discussed these issues before starting a family.
She admitted, “I was naive. I didn’t realize how much children would change things.” Most of the solutions offered didn’t fit their situation. They can’t afford a nanny, moving for better childcare isn’t an option, and working from home isn’t feasible for her.
“I know this is what’s best for us right now, but it’s frustrating,” she concluded.
