A mother is conflicted about giving her daughter letters from her late father, fearing it may hurt her feelings.
When Helena graduated from college, the mom surprised her with one of those letters. It was heartfelt, sharing Jim’s college memories and how proud he was of her. Helena treasures that letter, and it helps her feel connected to her dad.
Now, Helena is in her early 40s and doesn’t know there are two more letters waiting for her. Jim wanted her to have one on her wedding day and another when she had a child. But the mom worries since Helena is happily single and might never have those moments.
She’s torn about what to do with the letters. Destroying them feels wrong, but giving them to Helena might hurt her. The mom fears it could be painful for Helena to see her dad’s hopes for a life she hasn’t chosen.
After a health scare last year, the mom is anxious about leaving the letters behind. She doesn’t want Helena to find them after she’s gone and feel confused.
In a response, Eric suggests that the mom should give Helena the letters when it feels right. He emphasizes that these letters are a beautiful gift of love from her dad, reflecting his hopes for her happiness.
He encourages her to frame the letters as a way for Jim to reach out and express his love, regardless of the life choices Helena has made. It’s all about the love he had for her and the joy of being her dad.
Eric also suggests that the mom might want to write her own letters to Helena, offering support for different moments in her life. It’s a way to keep that connection alive, no matter what.
